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This mainly to vent but would appreciate any tips on how to cope. A few months ago my bf and I broke up, around that same time my mom and I stopped talking. And today my best friend and i “broke up”. In all three situations I didn’t do anything to hurt their feelings, they all lied to me about different things and had been disrespecting me for a while and i tried to set boundaries.
with my friend, I moved away for grad school three years ago and the distance has strained our relationship we live different lives she lives in a smaller city, went to community college for her MA, and is in a more financially strained situation. regardless I would never ghost her or choose a romantic partner over her, which she did and has done anytime a man is in her life or more than a few months.
It’s overwhelming that three of the people i care about most are no longer part of my life. I have other friends but none that are even comparable to her. i’m an only child of divorced parents so not much family aside from grandparents and dad who are both distant. And i’m seeing other people but casually, i’m scared i’ll never find someone like my ex. My mom has been toxic my entire life. Losing all of them makes me even more hyper aware of how people perceive me. Do my other friends actually want to be my friend? Do my friend/boyfriend /mom actually care about me? What’s wrong with me?
I guess what I’m asking is how am i supposed to deal with all of this? I am in therapy and on meds for depression and adhd. but i’m also in my first real job and applying to phd programs. I feel dumb, used, and like no one ever wants to truly be around me.

Demographics

• Gender: F
• Race/Ethnicity: asian
• Residence: small asia country
• Income Bracket: did not ask for aid except for need-blind colleges
• Type of School: small private, sends 1-2 to ivies each year
• Hooks (Recruited Athlete, URM, First-Gen, Geographic, Legacy, etc.): lol no

Intended Major(s): physics, philosophy
Academics

• GPA (UW/W): 44 IB
• Rank (or percentile): 1
• # of Honors/AP/IB/Dual Enrollment/etc.: standard ib
• Senior Year Course Load: most rigorous

Standardized Testing
List the highest scores earned and all scores that were reported.

• SAT I: 1540 (740RW, 800M)

Extracurriculars/Activities
List all extracurricular involvements, including leadership roles, time commitments, major achievements, etc.
(shuffled)

1. leadership position at a legit intl youth org
2. play an instrument for fun (upper intermediate level)
3. leadership position at another natl youth org (quit in 11th)
4. wrote for school newspaper
5. one of the leaders for school’s science club
6. coding projects i did on my own (not published or anything)
7. volunteer teacher for coding at an orphanage
8. founder of school lit mag
9. somewhat niche sport i did non-competitively
10. debate club member

Awards/Honors
List all awards and honors submitted on your application.

1. mid intl math award
2. decent intl pitch competition award
3. fluff regional math award
4. local pith competition award
5. school awards

Letters of Recommendation
(Briefly describe relationships with your recommenders and estimated rating.)
STEM teacher - 6/10? I'm not their fav student and they're not my fav teacher but I guess she thinks I'm smart?
Hums teacher - I'm their fav student and they're my fav teacher in a mutual admiration kind of way, can totally vouch for me, 9.5/10
Additional non-core teacher - offered to write me a rec, has written recs for kids who got into T10s, 9.5/10
Counselor - I guess she likes me, knows my quirks, but I'm not the most involved at school, 7/10??
Interviews
(Briefly reflect on interview experiences, if applicable)
didn't get any
Essays
(Briefly reflect on the quality of your writing, time spent, and topic of main personal statement.)

• common app: 5-8/10?? ok it depends like it's a really bizarre and cringe topic now that I reread it and if I could redo the app I'd most likely change it, but I'd say it resonates with certain types quirky of colleges? drafted the entire thing in like 2 days before jan 1 but kind of rewrote it the night before submission LMAO yes I barely had time to do apps, not with my adhd
• yale: I spent months perfecting this, 9/10
• columbia: spent nearly a week but could've been better, 7.5/10
• stanford: these were the hardest to write for some reason. kinda cliche and non-unique, 5/10
• swarthmore: I recycled a roughly-written essay (istg the word limit is so short), 7/10
• wellesley: wrote these 2 days before, love one of them but lowkey regret the other, 6/10
• amherst: i LOVED my amherst essays, 8/10
• williams: meh i wrote these the day before, 6/10

Additional Information:

• submitted creative writing portfolio to Columbia and Swarthmore despite never being published bc why not lol
• attended high school with multiple scholarships, prolly helped?

Decisions (indicate ED/EA/REA/SCEA/RD)
Acceptances:

• swarthmore

Waitlists:

• wellesley

Rejections:

• amherst
• williams

Awaiting but no chance ikik:

• yale
• columbia
• stanford

all my safeties were in other countries and wasn't expecting to get into anywhere in the us so very very pleased with swat acceptance <3
in all honesty tho, what do yall think got me into swat bc i know my profile is v mid

Long story short, I just got out of a graduate school where she was my professor and every time I even think about her I get butterflies.
She’s so beautiful and so intelligent and ugh, who doesn’t love an older(ish) woman?? Everything about her makes me swoon fr. I’m sure she thinks I was being a teacher’s pet just for the sake of it, but I wonder if deep down somewhere she knows it’s because I just like being close to her :’)
The best part about all this is that she’s actually a lesbian!! 🫶🏼 Just kinda sad I don’t get to see her as much since I’ve graduated.

I've been playing for awhile now and my throw has developed to where I have been able to hit (one) 11 darter in competition. However I think I have taken my throw as far as I can and I cannot improve my averages with it any further without modification.
What I recorded when I put in some solid practice for a competition was that although I could hit 60s, 100's, 140's and 180's I was more likely to hit 41/45, 81/85, or 121/125. I have always had a real problem with getting more than 12 darts consecutively in the 20 segment, even aiming for the fat section. I know its not easy, but it shouldn't be near impossible after a good warm up.
So here is what I think contributes to my lack of an ability to stay straight and what I have done about it...
Firstly I am left eye dominant and right handed. I changed my throw from front-on to side on when this was brought to my attention, and now I can put my dart on target in my set up. I always try to stand at the same point on the oche with my hip aligned to the centre of the bull. I believed by doing this I could bring my follow-through straight at the 20.
Which brings me to the greatest flaw with my throw I feel, the follow-through. I'm 6' 4", so have long levers. If I try and throw hard my darts hit high. It's not that I 'snatch' so much, but more that my arm isn't fully extended at the elbow. I have worked hard on making my throw mechanical and a lot of my practice is concentrated on grouping around targets, which I think I do reasonably successfully, so I feel that this slightly kinked arm finish is pretty consistent.
When I did an alignment drill I found on YouTube where you throw your first dart at the bull and close your eyes for the next two. I found I was about half way right to the treble with my blind throws. I tried re-aligning my back foot to compensate, but I'm already standing side on and twisting further whilst standing in the same position on the oche wasn't the solution, I felt.
I was using Rising Sun 3.0 21.5g darts, because my first ever set were Puma darts, scalloped like the Meryn Kings' bamboo style. I'm a back gripper and the back scallop took my thumb well, the front my index. But I got into smoothies because I like the release without an aggressive grip pattern. Going heavier meant my arm was even less at 180% at the finish of my follow-through. So I grabbed some 12g smooth Buntings I'd tried a long time ago for shits and giggles, stood further to the right of the oche to open up my chest and started hitting 20's much more consistently, including a 180 on my third throw.
I'm sitting here unable to throw know because the muscles on the inside of my elbow are bloody sore, but I thank you for reading my rant this far and was hoping for some insights into what is going on.

My boyfriend is 5 years younger than me, I'm 26 and he is 21. We've been together for a year and a half. He has jumped jobs and been on and off for the last year and it's been taking a toll on me and our relationship financially. He was unemployed for most of the time and couldn't keep a job because of his depression. So his mum and I have been filling in to help pay his bills/loan/car etc here and there etc. I don't earn a lot either as I study and only work 2-3 times a week and pay my own bills/loan and pay for little dates/presents for us, so all my extra money goes to him if I can. I told him that he could take his time getting his shit together while I helped support him.
But it's been going on like this for the past year now, and my anxiety has been so high everyday wondering if he's going to lose his job or decide he doesn't want to turn up at work again.I even gave him money recently to pay for a therapist for his depression but instead he kept the money in his account and his account went in negatives. So now he can't afford to pay it anymore.
We had a massive fight recently about my anxiety of being worried that he'll just quit his next job again and my boyfriend told me that if he can't keep this next job (starts next week) for at least 3 months, then I can leave him and put myself first.
So I messaged his mum, which I never do in any of my relationships because I hate the idea of bringing a mum into it. But I did it because I know that if I go to my friends or family for advice, they'll all tell me to leave him. *For context: My boyfriend doesn't have a dad. Him and his mum are close in the way that they're like friends and she's very young (16 years older than him). She'll call him every now and then to see how he's going. But she lives with her boyfriend about 45mins away and my boyfriend is too shy to go see his mum because he feels like he's intruding in her life and her relationship with her boyfriend. As much as I've encouraged him to call/visit her often (especially when we're in the area), he doesn't want to because he feels like a burden and not a priority. So he's too scared to talk to her about anything especially with her boyfriend around.
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I basically told her everything of what's happened with him for the past year because he's been too scared to talk to her about anything. All the advice I've given my boyfriend has been the same as his mums and I haven't gone against what she's advised and been very supportive. And I asked her for advice of what I should do if I should keep being patient with him or if she could step in and help because I feel like I'm beginning to mother him and that I'm scared that I might be wasting my time with a child.
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Her response to me was:
"I know he's young but as his mum I let him find his own growth and fulfil his way in time. I see my son as a flower where I put seed, soil and water him whenever he needs me. I have patience to see what the future holds. If you think you're wasting your time then why do you still stay? Your relationship is very toxic and one of you have to give up and think about what makes you happy..I know he's young and it's a big adjustment for you. Both of you deserve better as being single or with someone else." and "I'm not a nagging mother and I can't have the mother and son relationship when you're around. Since my son has a girlfirend, I dont want to be involved in his personal life and I let him be. If he needs a mother, I'll be around but things changed. If you think he's scared of me and won't talk to me, why do you talk to me on his behalf? You're controlling my sons life, I'm worried that he's happy with you"
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I was shook because I just wanted advice from the one person that knew him most. I knew I probably shouldn't have gone to her but I didn't know what else to do and have felt like I've reached my breaking point. Am I controlling? Am I doing something wrong? Should I leave him? I know his mum is right about this relationship being toxic etc, but I feel like It's worth saving because we do have similar goals and values in life and we are very happy with eachother when we're not financially drowning. He's begged for me to give him a chance but I'm so worried I'm wasting my time and being dumb for staying and waiting.
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I don't know what to do but I'm so afraid that these bad habits now we'll go into my future and future family, and it's not the life I want in my future. Is that too soon to think about?
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TL;DR; : - Boyfriend can't keep a job for longer than 2 months as he had depression. - I told his mum everything about it and asked for advice on how I should handle it and she thinks I'm controlling and we should break up. - I'm worried that his bad habit of not having good work ethic may carry over into our future together with a family and life etc. - I don't know if I should break up with him or stay and wait?

The disturbing stats of unlawfulness always made me grab my cell phone and look for the best training classes for martial arts near me. I enrolled with the Krav Maga Experts based on my friend's recommendation and could see the changes in my body and mindset within the first few days. The trainers here have refined teaching and fighting skills and are professional in teaching you to become your own hero.

I am a college age male. I’ve been working at my job for 9 months, while being friends with Phoebe for those 9 months. We’ve been great friends since we met at work, and we get along great. There were even a few times when we would pick up extra shifts on the same day because we like working together so much. Within the last few weeks, she’s asked me to flirt with her and say pickup lines and stuff because it entertains her, and because I’ve expressed my feelings towards her. I always made it very clear what she could ask me to stop if I ever made her uncomfortable and that she was allowed to be as honest as she wants with me. She made it clear that we were only friends, but there was a chance that we could be romantically involved. A few days ago, the two of us, as well as two other friends of ours went to a pool after work just to hang out and have fun. Phoebe and I decided to play a game where we basically wrestle and try to keep the other off of ourselves. She is quite a bit smaller than I am, so it was mostly me chasing her, and I routinely asked her if what I was doing was ok, and she always said it was. I must’ve asked her over a dozen times throughout the night. I never intentionally reached for her chest or pelvic area, and I didn’t physically harm her in any way. When we decided to leave the pool and go home, she wasn’t speaking to me at all. As I was driving home, I realized that I hurt her. I realized that I treated her incredibly unfairly and inappropriately. It was honestly borderline sexual assault. I apologized to her in person and in text, but she never responded. I offered to put in my two weeks notice at work, because I don’t think she should be forced to be around me after I hurt her. She assured me that this wasn’t necessary, and that she was still upset, but also willing to forgive and forget. We didn’t speak for another couple of days, until today, when she assured me that we were fine. She said she understands how bad I feel and how sorry I am, but the chance of us being romantically involved is completely gone. I am honestly broken with guilt. It’s tearing me apart inside and I feel so horrible that my actions caused her pain. I feel like a complete waste of space and I am so sad that the chance of us being together is gone because of my selfishness and cruelty. Should I attempt romance in the future or just leave our friendship as it is?

This happened in the final few weeks of my senior year. I was getting ready to graduate, and trying to decide if I should pass the reins to Amy 3, Pepper or Hannah the eviscerator. I'd undecorated my room, and was getting some studying done for finals, up way past my bedtime when there was a tap tap tap at my window. I looked to see a figure silhouetted against the dark night. I pointed towards the front door and, with a sigh, went to meet the person who'd be keeping me up.
I should have known who it was when I grabbed the door knob and felt it was ice cold. Not realizing the value of these omens, I opened the door to see Dahlia the harpy. She was certainly in a state, hair a mess, cheaters molting, with streaks of mascara running down her face. Her eyes were red from crying. I mean redder than usual. In a pitiable voice she asked "are you Shannon?" I said that I was. She asked if I still let anyone come to me with any problem. I said I did. She said "we haven't met, but my name is Dahlia. Will you help me?"
I stood slackjawed for a moment until a sniff snapped me out of it. I took a moment and thought WWHD (what would Helga do) and decided I would. So I invited her in, grabbed two pints of butter pecan, and sat down. I grabbed two pints because I didn't want to split one with her, and because I knew I'd need my own to get through this one.
She took a bite and then just sorta melted back into her human form, and for a minute just cried. When the wailing subsided, I asked her what her trouble was.
"I'm pregnant." She said. I'll admit with some guilt that the first thing I felt was relief. I was afraid she'd killed an adventurer and was trying to dispose of the body, but by now I'd handled unexpected pregnancies enough to be back on familiar territory. Then through the sobs she explained "I haven't seen my boyfriend in six months and I got lonely and…"
The relief gave way to white hot rage. She'd taken the one guy who had shown any interest without also being either insane or with one foot in the grave, and she had the audacity to do this? "WWHD" I whispered to myself. I realized I'd crushed my pint in my fist and forced my hand to unclench.
Dahlia continued "and Ethan is coming out in two weeks for graduation and I don't know what to do. I could sleep with him and then say…"
"FUCK" I shouted and sprang to my feet. It took everything in me to not strangle that woman where she sat. She looked up at me alarmed and afraid and I shouted "I SPILLED MY ICE CREAM AND I NEED TO GET A TOWEL." I shouted this loud enough that a few curious heads peeked out of their dorms.
Hannah asked if I was ok as I walked by. She heard me muttering "don't kill her don't kill her" and asked if I wanted her to take over.
I replied "no, but I'm going to need you on standby for afterwards. For me." I made it back to my room, screamed as loud as I could into my pillow, got a towel, composed myself and returned to face the monster. I cleaned up the spilled ice cream and was about to sit down, but then I looked at her and my eye twitched and I said "HANG ON LET ME PUT THIS IN THE LAUNDRY."
I was something that resembled composed when I finally got back, less than three minutes after my outburst, and I was able to pick up my ice cream and resume the conversation. Now given its prevalence in the story, it may surprise you to find out that while I do like butter pecan, it isn't my favorite. I don't know why it became the universal comfort ice cream of my college days, but it seemed everyone liked it and it worked to cheer them up so I didn't question it. The rest of that pint, though, tasted like ashes.
Dahila explained that when she told the father she was pregnant and it was his he'd literally run away, blocked her on everything and last she'd heard he'd left the state. Given that Dahlia was an eye eating harpy this response was understandable but absolutely detestable.
"Deliah, honey." That word was a struggle to get out. "Why would you do that? The thing with Ethan?"
She looked up at me and there was only despair in her eyes. "Because if I don't I… I'm… I'm afraid."
"Afraid of what, honey?" I asked.
Her answer was a whisper. "I can't do it on my own." And in that moment I felt a little better about not slamming the door in her face. I let her comment hang for a minute and she continued. "My mom was a single mom, and I never knew my dad and she… I don't want to be like her." Her voice broke. "I can't be like her, Shannon. Please."
I realized what she wanted. She wanted my approval to go ahead with Ethan, for me to tell her that that was the right thing to do. And if she wanted me to tell her that, it meant that she knew it was the wrong thing. I considered my next words carefully. "Dahlia, you're a senior. You're about to graduate. What kind of degree did your mom have?"
"She got her GED when I was nine."
"Well there you go, honey. You're already miles ahead." I said, false sunshine in my voice.
"But what if…"
"Yeah, the job marker sucks right now. But you're Dahlia the h…" I was going to say harpy. "The mighty. You can do this."
"But Ethan… what if I need him?"
I wanted to pull a Hannah, to verbally give her the ol KA LI MA and verbally rip out her heart, but I held myself in check. "Dahlia, you know that this plan of yours is wrong." I said, a little more sternly than I meant to. She started to protest but I interrupted her. "It's also setting you up for misery. You'll live in fear. What if he finds out? What if he realizes? What if he does the math and realizes that you can't deliver at a full 40 weeks if you've only been pregnant 32 weeks. What if he does a DNA test for one of those heritage websites? He might not know, but you will, Dahlia. You'll always know, and it will eat you up inside. What happens if, in ten years, you get in a fight and get drunk and decide to tell him, just to see how much it hurts him? Because it will hurt him. It will kill him. Do you think he's earned that?"
She just cried. She cried and cried and cried. And finally, in the smallest voice, she whispered "no".
"Then you have to do the right thing."
"I can't!" She shouted, then cried some more. "Will you help me? Please?"
Come to Shannon with your problems! She'll always do whatever she can. I got the number from her, and with each digit I dialed I cursed the stupid reputation I'd cultivated. I almost came close to even considering to curse Helga for believing in me.
The phone rang, and with each a sprout of hope blossomed in my heart, hope that it would go to voice-mail. And at last my prayers were answered! "It's Ethan, leave a message. If this is mom, hi mom!" Beep. I hung up, relief flooding into me. I tossed my phone down on the table and took another bite of ice cream.
Then I heard it.
The wrrr wrrr wrrr of my phone vibrating on the table. I recognized the number. Dahlia looked at me, a silent plea in her eyes.
I answered it on speaker. "Hello?" I said.
"Hey, I missed a call from this number?" Ethan said, from his voice he'd been asleep.
"Hi is this Ethan? Hi, my name is Shannon McMatthews, I'm the RA of dorm 6." I waited a moment for a reply.
"Uh…"
Well I suppose that one was on me, I didn't give him much to go on. "Now don't worry" I was about to say that nothing was wrong but that wasn't the truth. "She's not hurt, but I'm here with Dahlia. She needs to talk to you."
I clicked it off speaker and slid my phone over to Dahlia, who took it in shaking hands. I said "I'll give you some privacy. Come knock on my door when you're done."
She did a few minutes later and from her expression I knew how the call went. I just took my phone back and hugged her. She didn't want to talk more, so I walked her back to her dorm, returned to my own and then cried my eyes out. I told Hannah what had happened, and then without explaining to them what was wrong, she got the other girls to come out. And I cried. Because it's me and I guess that's my thing. I realized I'd been burying my feelings. That I didn't want this to end with graduation.
Pepper started it. One by one they took turns telling me about how I'd helped them, about when I'd been there for them, about what I'd done for them. They told me they loved me, how much it meant to just know I was there. Rachel said she thought of me as a big sister. Amy 2 said I was like the mom she never had. Hannah said I'd given her a voice. Girls, if any of you are reading this, know that it was a pleasure and an honor to have been there for you. I remember every single thing you said, I've written it on my heart and the memory of that night is one I cherish dearly.
Classes the next day could fuck right off, though.
I talked to Dahlia a few months ago, and found she'd really turned herself around. Brayden (of course) is a really cute kid. Dahlia herself is doing great. She works for a non profit helping single mothers. She did a bunch of therapy and is working on her MSW. I asked if she was dating anyone and to my delight she said "not at the moment, but it's fine, I might want a man but I don't need one." She's also stopped eating eyes. Well, she's stopped eating HUMAN eyes. So that's a start.

Hey everyone! I've never had sex in my life but 3 days ago I got a hand job from a girl and she was a stranger (Her HIV status not known). She was naked and we just touched each other. I especially took care of somethings including : I didn't touch her vagina, i didn't kiss her on lips. Then she gave me a hand job. Now fast forward to 3 days. I travelled from a cold city to a hot weather city. Where I had to turn AC on and fans too. I'm having little stucky nose like in flu but I'm not sure it's because of travelling and weather change or it can be early symptoms of hiv. I don't know because i have health anxiety as well. Can you people please tell me honestly and guide me what can be it ? An honest opinion will be really appreciated guys and girls :) Thanks in advance.

The short of it: my husband broke his phone in January so we shared my phone meaning his social media account logins were accessible. I respected his privacy and thought I had deleted all of them off my phone but realized I still had access to his Insta last month when I was trying to see if I still had access to an old account we had made for our pets. Since it was nearing Valentine's day, I decided to login to his account just to see if there was anything he was liking in terms of gifts since he's absolutely notorious to shop for. Instead, I found flirty messages between him and his half-sister's sister AND suggestive conversations with one of his friends who is happily married and proudly gay (at least I thought so).
For context: During this timeframe, we've had lots of shit happen such as me losing my job and finding out his dad has stage 3 cancer. He has a history of processing heavy news in not the best of ways and finding unhealthy outlets but he has made tremendous progress in the 10yrs we've been together. But I completely understand that he had the potential to regress with all the shit we've been going through.
With that being said, I have no clue how to confront him about this. My reasoning in confronting him is so he can acknowledge that he's not handling all this shit well and that if he doesn't want to talk to me about it (when I ask, he says "it is what it is."), that he needs to find a professional. The glaring issue is that me even finding out about this information violated his trust...but should I just disregard that since his behavior is just not okay?

And when I say they 'fixed' my issue I mean they just tagged the ticket with fixed and did nothing to actually help me or solve my issue and then set my ticket to closed or whatever.
Is this the average experience with EA support or did I just get 'answered' by someone who didn't feel like doing their job that day?

TLDR: we are seeing a lot of candidates applying for senior devops positions using ChatGPT to create their resumes. What questions would you ask a candidate that are outside the scope of what ChatGPT can do and would give you confidence they know their stuff?
Was inspired to create this post based on a bunch of the comments listed on this post earlier today.
Background:
Myself (senior backend engineer) and our senior site reliability engineer were going over resumes looking for another senior devops person on Friday. We noticed the following sentence used on three different resumes: Wrote Ansible playbooks from scratch in YAML. Installing, setting up & Troubleshooting Ansible, created and automated platform environment setup. Many of the other resumes also included things that no senior, or even junior devops person would put on their resumes. For example: Setup repository on GitHub, merging code from develop branch to master branch and make it ready for deployment. This line was on at least 5 of them.
We put it aside and discussed other topics for a bit and the conversation turned towards ChatGPT. I decided to see what it would produce with the prompt of “senior devops resume”. Low and behold the format and sentence structure it spit out aligned with many of the resumes we had just been looking over. It even listed Nagios on the resume which has less than a 1% market share, but somehow 10% of the resumes featured nagios experience... so those resumes were a big red flag.
We tried doing a couple of the initial interviews the other day on the phone before we caught onto the chatGPT resumes, the interviewee on the other end didn't have a clue about what was listed on their resume. It was only after a couple bumbling answers that they regurgitated what seemed to be a wikipedia type summary of how they used that technology. My guess is it took them a few moments to read over the chatGPT prompt and determine what pieces were relevant to the question we asked.
What we have decided on so far:
Our approach is now going to be to sort the wheat from the chaff, any resumes that look suspicious go in one pile and the rest go in another pile for a second read through. From there we setup a video call with people who would be their peers, followed by a manager and the CIO. The hope is that this ensures they are focused on us and won't be reading a prompt, if so it's easier to spot.
The problem:
On the ones we choose to interview, we could assign take home work if the interview goes well -we typically don’t and for devops it doesn't make much sense- but they might use ChatGPT to fake it till they make it. So the question is, what types of questions would you ask a ask candidate to confirm that they are the real deal ? Would you go for depth into a specific thing listed on their resume or breadth and hop around a bit more; e.g. tell me how you would architect a solution that involves these specific technologies? Essentially what questions would only a person with experience know.

Buckle in for a late-night, well overdue post in the form of a poorly structured plea
For several years, even when I was just beginning to sexually discover myself, I have fantasized about being... "prey," I guess. I've taken that BSDM test a hundred times over the past few years (not literally, I'm not that unhinged lol) and every time it shows I'm damn near 100% "brat." I would say that is extremely accurate.
The problem is, I've never met a guy (I'm straight, maybe a bit bi) that has embodied what I want in a sexual partner. My "criteria" are as follows: taller than me, 20yo-30yo give-or-take, attractive, strong, well-adjusted, and has the specific interest of overpowering/controlling someone like me out of pure desire and thirst for power.... I think. I'm not completely sure on that last criteria.
I understand that's a pretty common "ideal man" for most gals my age. But I'm hoping to find someone that fits the bill who can help me discover myself sexually and overcome the shame I sometimes feel toward my sex-life and interests. I'm looking for someone who isn't just looking for sex or sending pics or whatever. Rather, someone who I can build a sort of relationship with while mixing in some sexual aspects and maybe eventually take it further.
Some more things about my sexual self: - i hate humiliation :( - like fr i refuse to be humiliated and it is the opposite of a turn-on for me - spanking is ok tho ig - also i LOVE to be choked - i am an extreme "brat" - i tease like a maniac - i am not nearly as horny as i used to be, likely due to my meds and my shame/self-consciousness. hopefully a guy who is a better fit than my past partners can reignite something in me
One more thing. I would consider myself decently experienced sexually for my age. Nothing crazy obviously, but I just wanted to add that bit in to show I'm not just some teen coming straight from like a Wattpad fanfic who has a romanticized view of the world and the men in it.
Not sure what I expect from this post either. Hopefully something positive :)
DM me for my snap if you want to connect further

Have been wanting to build a PC for a while and am finally getting a chance to due to a new job. Would greatly appreciate any advice or suggestions for improvement!
Budget is 2500-2800 USD and intended use is mostly gaming, office work, and some video/photo editing. I also have 2 4k monitors I would ideally want to use with it.
[PCPartPicker Part List](https://pcpartpicker.com/list/cC2cwc)
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**CPU** [Intel Core i9-13900K 3 GHz 24-Core Processor](https://pcpartpicker.com/product/DhVmP6/intel-core-i9-13900k-3-ghz-24-core-processor-bx8071513900k) $559.99 @ Newegg
**CPU Cooler** [Cooler Master Hyper 212 RGB Black Edition 57.3 CFM CPU Cooler](https://pcpartpicker.com/product/hHDJ7P/cooler-master-hyper-212-rgb-black-edition-573-cfm-cpu-cooler-rr-212s-20pc-r1) $90.78 @ Amazon
**Motherboard** [MSI MAG B660 TOMAHAWK WIFI DDR4 ATX LGA1700 Motherboard](https://pcpartpicker.com/product/H7gFf7/msi-mag-b660-tomahawk-wifi-ddr4-atx-lga1700-motherboard-mag-b660-tomahawk-wifi-ddr4) $189.95 @ Amazon
**Memory** [Corsair Vengeance RGB Pro 32 GB (2 x 16 GB) DDR4-3600 CL18 Memory](https://pcpartpicker.com/product/khmFf7/corsair-vengeance-rgb-pro-32-gb-2-x-16-gb-ddr4-3600-memory-cmw32gx4m2z3600c18) $104.99 @ Amazon
**Memory** [Corsair Vengeance RGB Pro 32 GB (2 x 16 GB) DDR4-3600 CL18 Memory](https://pcpartpicker.com/product/khmFf7/corsair-vengeance-rgb-pro-32-gb-2-x-16-gb-ddr4-3600-memory-cmw32gx4m2z3600c18) $104.99 @ Amazon
**Storage** [Samsung 980 Pro 2 TB M.2-2280 PCIe 4.0 X4 NVME Solid State Drive](https://pcpartpicker.com/product/f3cRsY/samsung-980-pro-2-tb-m2-2280-nvme-solid-state-drive-mz-v8p2t0bam) $159.99 @ Amazon
**Video Card** [Asus TUF GAMING OC GeForce RTX 4070 Ti 12 GB Video Card](https://pcpartpicker.com/product/rdjBD3/asus-tuf-gaming-oc-geforce-rtx-4070-ti-12-gb-video-card-tuf-rtx4070ti-o12g-gaming) $849.99 @ B&H
**Case** [Corsair iCUE 5000X RGB ATX Mid Tower Case](https://pcpartpicker.com/product/v7Dkcf/corsair-icue-5000x-rgb-atx-mid-tower-case-cc-9011212-ww) $169.99 @ Newegg
**Power Supply** [Corsair RM1000x (2021) 1000 W 80+ Gold Certified Fully Modular ATX Power Supply](https://pcpartpicker.com/product/jRvdnQ/corsair-rm1000x-2021-1000-w-80-gold-certified-fully-modular-atx-power-supply-cp-9020201-na) $189.95 @ Amazon
*Prices include shipping, taxes, rebates, and discounts*
Total (before mail-in rebates) $2440.62
Mail-in rebates -$20.00
**Total** **$2420.62**
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Generally wondering if any parts I should reconsider or if there would be benefits in paying more for the AMD instead of the intel.
I was originally going to go with the Corsair iCUE H150i ELITE CAPELLIX for cooling as I liked the aesthetic but liquid coolers are a bit daunting to me and had some noise concerns so I switched to a fan. Would love input as to whether this is the right switch or if liquid is really worth it.
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Would be very grateful for any help!

To me,
Where do I begin.
You’ve got a lot going for you. You have amazing family, friends and a nice home to live in. With just one sentence you already have so much more than many people out there in the world. Feeling grateful yet? No? Keep reading.
I know you feel like you’re running out of time. Time to do what? Live? You ARE actually living. And breathing. And that is a freaking amazing thing. You’re a living, breathing human, living on a space rock.
Yeah, I know, you haven’t found “the one” yet. Yeah, your body is frustrating sometimes. Yeah, you could work a little harder at your job. Yeah, you could ease up on the spending. Yeah, you could stop being so stubborn all the time. Yeah, you could be better at responding to texts. I’ve got many more paragraphs of “yeahs” if you need a reminder.
The thing is, you have got to stop beating yourself up over the things that are specifically put in place that make you human. Try your best today and guess what? If you didn’t try your best? You can try again tomorrow! What will be will be, so it’s best not to worry too much about it. No one is expecting perfection, and no one wants perfect robots running around anyways. Keep on doing your thing and know that everything will always be OKAY. Okay?
Love,
Me

Once upon a time, there was a tall, nerd, and not-much attractive guy pero pwede na who woke up one morning, looked at the sky, and thought, "Well, this sucks." He knew there was only one solution - to turn to the all-knowing oracle of modern dating: PH fucking R4Friends.
With his trusty cup of coffee in hand, he set out to find someone who shared his thirst for knowledge, someone who could keep up with his nerdy quirks, and someone who he could eventually take on 'friendly' dates (whatever that means). He wasn't in a rush to jump into anything too serious too soon, but he knew that someday, he wanted to find someone he could build a meaningful and caring relationship with.
So if you're a fellow lover of coffee, learning, and all things nerdy, this tall drink of water might just be the partner in crime you've been looking for. Dating at times feel like a job hunt doesn't it? So I thought it’d be fun to write it in a mock format just like a resume! LOL

About me

An old soul as older people I spoke with would say, into business and investments, frustrated law student, can drive a fucking 10 wheeler truck, no ex issues or sabit, can provide a certificate of no relationship (kahit wala naman nun haha).

• I'm 5'10", medium built if that matters, resides in quezon city
  
• I'm an INTJ, Aries, if you’re into MBTI and believes in horoscope.
  
• Loves to read self-help books as I love to learn and motivate myself along the way.
  
• I'm the kind of person who doesn't follow the herd blindly, even if it means standing alone in a field of conformity. My principles are like a compass, always pointing me in the right direction, even if it's not the most popular route. In short, I'm not afraid to swim against the current, as long as it's in line with my beliefs.
  
• You could say that my communication style is like a triple-layered cake: serious, meaningful, and sprinkled with a healthy dose of humor. Sure, I may come off as awkward at times, but that's just my way of keeping things interesting. After all, who wants a bland and flavorless conversation when you can have a deliciously complex one? So, if you're looking for someone who can engage in a thoughtful discussion, crack a few jokes, and still leave you with something to ponder, then look no further.
  
• I'm what you might call a clean freak with a creative streak. As someone who's a bit OC (okay, maybe more than a bit), I can't stand to see a messy or cluttered home. But don't worry, I'm not the type to wait around for someone else to do the dirty work. I take pride in noticing when something needs to be done and taking care of it without being asked - it's like a satisfying little victory every time. And when it comes to interior design and home decor, I'm practically a pro. I'm always on the hunt for the latest and greatest tools and gadgets to keep things looking fresh and stylish. So if you're looking for someone to spruce up your space and keep things sparkling clean, I'm your go-to guy.
  
• I'm not in the business of putting people down - unless we're talking about the volume on the stereo (badum-tss!). But seriously, I believe in treating others with kindness and respect, even when it's not the easiest thing to do. After all, life is hard enough without having to deal with someone else's negativity. So let's lift each other up instead of tearing each other down, shall we?
  
• I set feasible goals and actively pursue them.
  

Here's a list of my favorites:

Movies/Series	Music	Places	Activities	Books
Godfather	Radiohead	Paris (not yet)	Cycling	The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday
Sherlock	Eraserheads	Coffee Shops	Painting	How to Win Friends & Influence People
Castaway	Chicago	Cebu	Roadtrips	Meditations by Marcus Aurelius
Forrest Gump	Ebe Dancel	Japan	Diving	Start with Why by Simon Sinek
Homeland	Urbandub	Rome (not yet)	Piano	Atomic Habits by James Clear
Before Sunset	Frederic Chopin	Canada	Travelling	How to think like a Roman Emperor
The Office	Eminem	New York (not yet)	Cooking	Letters from Stoic
Big Bang Theory	Dr. Dre	Maldives (not yet)	Film & Photography	48 Laws of Power
Breaking Bad	Elton John	Marrakesh (not yet)	Badminton	The Intelligent Investor

Pros:

• Responsible (Good credit score, no debts, no criminal records, and self-reliant)
  
• Curious type of person, who's ready to listen and craves to learn a lot of things
  
• Doesn't do drugs and is not a heavy drinkealcoholic.
  
• Respects your views and accept healthy criticism.
  
• Actually appreciating the things you'll do for me, and showing it. If you cooked a big dinner, saying thank you is nice. Doing the dishes and cleaning the kitchen is even nicer, and in my opinion, should be the norm. The cook doesn't clean. If someone does something for me, I'll show them that their effort was appreciated instead of just accepting their generosity and then running off back to whatever I'm doing.
  
• Accepts responsibility for one's own actions and does not try to blame everything or everyone else.
  
• Doesn’t play online and computer games
  

My preference:

• Someone who has a strong passion for accurate and comprehensive learning, maintains a normal BMI, and is beautiful and easy on the eyes - I believe that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes (no offense intended towards plus-size women!).
  
• High standards for what she wants and is not afraid to communicate it.
  
• Craves knowledge too. Love and isn't afraid to try new things
  
• Passionate and proud about something they've been working on/have done/are planning to do
  
• Confident about what they want but isn't in-your-face about it.
  

Let's take a break from stressing over the mundane and focus on the important stuff - like what will make us happy for the rest of our lives! Share your thoughts on how we can achieve that and let's get this happiness train moving! Oh, and if you're curious let’s exchange photos first!

I'm somewhat stuck. I didn't get a chance to play much afterwards but I think it requires searching. I just a hint that can tell me what to do.
I dove deeper and deeper until I reached the lava zone. I found an alien structure (and I got the scene where that thing says it wants to help me), I went near and...lo and behold! It requires what looks like a blue tablet!
Feels like I should have found one by now but it's the first time I see the symbol. I only encountered purple and orange ones. Not sure if I want to scour every inch of the map. I don't know what to do! For a while now all my exploration with the cyclops and prawn has been going deeper and deeper near lifepod 2 (which led me to the giant cove tree, alien structure and another at the end of hte lava zone).
Can I get a hint?

I'm nearing the completion of The Bumblebee Animation tutorial by u/Dog_Among_Kings. I've just finished animating the bumblebee through the environment, and it looks great, except there is a slight jitter between the last and first frames of the animation. I'm not sure what information to provide here, in order to facilitate help, but I'm hoping someone can point me in the right direction, so I can get the scene rendered.

I (16F) got mad at my brother (13M) Tuesday for messing with my lights from an app we both have. I went to his room to confront him about it and we got into an argument which ended with him on the floor and me removing my lights from his phone. My dad came barging in the room and came straight at me backhanding me in the back of the head. I, obviously was upset and ran to hide in my room while he was mad because this was not the first time. My dad always takes my brother’s side no matter what happens. For context of why I hate my brother what happened was my dad took my brothers side, obviously. He yelled about how ungrateful I was and how he was not going to pay for my car and just sell it. Now I was supposed to get my license Tuesday but it got moved to Friday due to plans. My dad screamed how I was ungrateful and he was selling the car and not paying for my school because it was not worth it. I sat in my room talking to two of my friends who took my side when I explained the situation. So now I’m going to be stuck without a car, license, job, or money. I told my two friends that I was going to cut off my entire family and they said things will get better, but it hasn’t for the passed 4 years, and most likely will not get any better. I’m thinking of cutting them off after college and moving on with my life weither I have to live in a car or on the road. I really need opinions on what I should do. My dad also has a history of hitting me and then pretending nothing happened and moving on with life. He always takes my brothers side even if there is proof I did nothing wrong.

‘Canceled’ radical feminists and the Catholic Church: These unlikely allies believe women are female By Mary Farrow
This article is the first part of a two-part series on the Church, gender-critical feminists, and transgender ideology. Part two will be published on Feb. 12.
Mary Kate Fain doesn't agree with the Catholic Church about anything. Or, nearly anything, at least. But she does agree with the Catholic take on gender and identity. And that's cost her. A lot.
Last July, Fain wrote a piece critiquing non-binary gender identities. She questioned why so many of her female friends felt the need to shed their identities as women and to instead identify as "non-binary" - neither male nor female.
Fain published the piece on Medium, an online social publishing platform.
Not long after the article published, Fain was fired from her job as a software engineer. She claims her viewpoints are the reason she was let go.
"I guess one of my coworkers complained about the article and I was fired. And since then it just started the slew of cancellation," Fain told CNA.
"I was canceled from conferences, and canceled for multiple groups that I was a volunteer in, et cetera. And it just really highlighted to me that they all wanted to shut me up, but what it proved was that there really is a need for a place for women to be able to say this."
Since her firing, Fain, a millennial and freelance writer living just outside of Houston, founded 4W, an online publication that publishes articles analyzing radical feminist issues such as gender, male violence, sex positivity, and the portrayal of women in media. She is also co-founder of the feminist social media platform Spinster.xyz, and a volunteer with the Women's Human Rights Campaign.
And she is just one of many "canceled" women.
Why women are being "canceled"
Fain, along with several other women writers, intellectuals, and activists, have been "canceled" for their conviction that women are adult human females, whose sex-based rights, such as the right to female-only spaces like bathrooms or sports teams or therapy groups, deserve protection.
This view is no longer seen as politically correct by some tastemakers and gatekeepers, because it is "trans-exclusionary" - to hold this view means to hold that a man cannot "become" a woman because he identifies as one, and vice versa.
"...this is not something that you're supposed to say," Fain said. "We're supposed to just blindly accept what anyone says about their own identity, without any critical analysis, without any feminist analysis even. We're supposed to ignore that sex-based oppression exists and just admit, 'Oh yes, we are what we say we are and that defines our reality.'"
"But I think for any feminist, any real feminist, we know that that just simply isn't true," she added.
"Our sex does define certain aspects of our reality, and people are not allowed to say that in today's day and age."
Many women who hold this view refer to themselves as radical feminists, trans-exclusionary radical feminists or gender critical feminists, or even "canceled women."
"Cancel culture" is a relatively new term, used to describe the phenomenon that happens when someone, usually a famous person or one with some kind of platform, experiences a kind of shunning, harassment, or social banishment for doing or saying something with which a lot of people disagree.
Being "canceled" can take many forms: being trolled or doxxed on social media, being banned from Twitter or other platforms, or finding that events featuring the canceled person are quickly, well, canceled.
In January, an event entitled "Evening with Canceled Women" was canceled by the New York Public Library, where the event was to be hosted.
The canceled event was organized by Women's Liberation Front (WoLF), a group that advocates for the "rights, privacy and safety of women and girls, by which we mean human females," Kara Dansky, a board member with WoLF, told CNA.
"We were being told over the course of a week that the contract was being processed (for the event), and then the day before the deposit was due, we were told that we could not proceed with the event and we were not given a reason," Dansky said.
The event would have included the voices of women "who have, in one way or another, been silenced or canceled as a result of their outspoken views on behalf of women and girls," she added.
For example, the event would have featured Canadian feminist Megan Murphy, an advocate against pornography and prostitution whose insistence that women are female got her banned from Twitter, Dansky said.
It would also have included Posie Parker, a UK feminist known "for her insistence that the word woman means adult human female, which is simply the dictionary definition of the word," Dansky said. Parker has also been banned from Twitter for her views.
The event also would have featured Linda Bellows, a Briton "who speaks on behalf of lesbian rights. And she has been told that it is transphobic to insist that lesbians are women who are attracted to women," Dansky said.
These canceled women join a slew of others, with particularly high numbers in the UK, where the 2004 Gender Recognition Act lets adults register their gender as something other than the biological sex with which they were born.
Common ground with the Catholic Church
While trans-exclusionary radical feminist women typically hold many views with which the Catholic Church disagrees, such as approval of abortion and gay marriage, they share common ground in the belief that women are female and men are male - and they are born that way.
"It has been a tremendous plus to have radical feminists speaking out so strongly about the reality of sexual difference and against the new tyranny of gender," Mary Rice Hasson, the Kate O'Beirne Fellow in Catholic Studies at the Ethics and Public Policy Center in Washington, D.C. and director of the Catholic Women's Forum, told CNA.
"Although we disagree about many things – most significantly about abortion-– we agree on some important truths about women," she said, such as opposing violence and exploitation against women, as well as "the importance of acknowledging the reality of sexual difference and the dangers of the transgender agenda."
"Specifically, we agree that sexual difference is real, that males and females are different in significant ways, and that a person's sex cannot change," Hasson said.
"The Church's vision of the human person differs radically from gender ideology," Hasson noted. "Christian anthropology teaches that the person is a unity of body and soul, that we are created male or female, forever."
"Gender ideology, in contrast, imagines the person as a bundle of assorted dimensions," she said, such as gender identity, gender expression, sexual orientation, and biological sex, none of which "needs to align – the person is self-determining. God is really not in the driver's seat."
Fain said she agrees that gender identity, "this idea that we have an internal sense of being male, female or neither, and that this has any effect on our material reality, is nonsense."
Dansky, whose group's primary goals are to fight violence against and exploitation of women in rape, sexual and domestic assault, and pornography and prostitution, said that her work is made nearly impossible in the context of broad social disagreement about what makes someone a woman in the first place.
"It's very difficult to solve all of those problems when we're not permitted to name the category of women," she said.
"It's very interesting to me that when our society talks about domestic violence and rape and sexual assault, and we talk about the rampant rates of these crimes being perpetrated against women and girls, everybody knows what the words 'women' and 'girls' mean."
In light of increasing acceptance of transgender ideology, the Vatican's Congregation for Catholic Education's issued a document entitled "Male and Female He Created Them" last June, explaining the Church's teaching on transgender issues and encouraging dialogue with those experiencing gender dysphoria.
The document cited the need to reaffirm "the metaphysical roots of sexual difference" to help refute "attempts to negate the male-female duality of human nature, from which the family is generated."
Such a negation "erases the vision of human beings as the fruit of an act of creation" and "creates the idea of the human person as a sort of abstraction who 'chooses for himself what his nature is to be.'"
Theories of gender, whether moderate or radical, agree that "one's gender ends up being viewed as more important than being of male or female sex," according to the document, which also reflects on the role of gender theory in education and speaks of a "crisis" in any alliance between the school and the family.
"Although ideologically-driven approaches to the delicate questions around gender proclaim their respect for diversity, they actually run the risk of viewing such differences as static realities and end up leaving them isolated and disconnected from each other," it said.
The document called for dialogue, and the protection of human and family rights. It also decried unjust discrimination and noted points of unity among people with different perspectives on gender ideology.
"Key allies"
Looking for concrete examples of common ground, Fain told CNA that she thinks that protecting the freedom of speech of those who oppose transgenderism will be one of the most important things that radical feminists and Christians can work together for.
"(W)e need to deal with this freedom of speech issue that's happening and cancel culture, which is making most people terrified to speak out on the issue," she said.
Fain noted that when she wrote the controversial article that got her fired, she had anticipated the backlash and had been saving for months to protect herself from the blow. She recognized that most people cannot afford to lose their jobs for speaking up on this issue.
"Most people can't, and especially women who are already at a financial disadvantage are more likely to be caring for kids," she said.
"And people are terrified to speak out on this issue because of the serious economic consequences that are happening."
"And although I have many issues with the right in general, I will say that I think religious freedom and freedom of speech do go hand in hand," Faid added.
"And so the Church's work on that is probably relevant here."
Hasson identified women like Fain as "key allies" in the fight against transgenderism going forward, and said she looks forward to working with them despite differences on other issues.
"Radical feminists have been fearless in speaking the truth about sexual difference - over social media, at universities, and in public hearings. They have refused to be silenced - even after being ridiculed, 'de-platformed' at public universities, or having their Twitter accounts shut down," Hasson said.
"We differ greatly about abortion and our views of men, but I am hopeful that our work together and personal regard for each other will open up some opportunities in the future for discussions about those areas where we disagree. But for now, I'm grateful for their commitment to speak the truth, even at great personal cost."

Source https://www.catholicnewsagency.com/news/43530/canceled-radical-feminists-and-the-catholic-church-these-unlikely-allies-believe-women-are-female

It’s nobody’s job to understand me or how my brain operates (in all fairness, I don’t even completely understand it). I was incredibly fortunate to have be born into a family of similarly unique talent(s).
I wasn’t diagnosed until my 30’s, ADHD presents differently in me (adult female).
I literally thought I was the “ savior” of the family being the only normal (enough) one in my FAMILY OF HEAVY ADHD SUFFERERS/ GIFTED. Lol! How did it never occur to anyone to just like…….. check that shit out earlier.
That excessive (almost uncontrollable) talking & loud volume was just……. “Because I’m a Leo and liked attention “. (although both are true ha). My parents just thought….., “let’s put her in cheer because shes a natural & she’d be great at it. “ They were right, They were brilliant, They were mine. & they never considered it?
Really?
Just because I handled it seemingly better?
I’ve never had any problems socializing, I’ve always been pretty good academically without REALLY trying and I’d never felt ostracized by any group. I just can (sorta) relate to most people and find the common ground and build from there.
But I was always looking…….. searching for some deep seeded fault.
Knowing Im different was/is cool because I come from these awesomely unique people; some down-ass, radical, Intelligently, ENTHRALLING, warm & welcoming people. My people had my flank (…./back/w/e). & Then my people started dying……..and having strokes that changed their brain chemistry, and some other reasons.
So now I’m an adult who’s been hating parts of myself for reasons unknown for DECADES; and I’m supposed to believe it’s because of a WELL RESEARCHED, studied and implemented affliction!!!!!
My mother is practically a pioneer in child development & education for adhd. I watched her help get my kid brother through school through painstakingly hard work & lots of help from your’s truly! (Again, she’s brilliant, also had ADHD- which remained strangely similar after two strokes that altered most other parts of her*+hmmmm, how curious)
Now I’m here, finally diagnosed, unmedicated, at major precipice in life- completely validated and absolutely terrified.
And smart enough to know there’s help and options ….. so what am I really bitching for?
It’s NOT hopeless, even on the days it seems it is. Kids can get through school much easier now! Parents can find the support their kids need much easier in todays systems! Resources are out there and I can help make those connections so it’s less stressful for the coming generations.
These kids are frustrating but gifted. I feel that realization like a battle cry.